On letting go
The ones who are capable of understanding what and who no longer serve them have an unfair advantage.
Being human beings, we long to evolve and adapt to the environment we set ourselves in. The more we explore, the more we interchange with nature. What does this mean? It’s very simple. If our values are the basis of everything we do in life, values can also be mutable. We have some inherited and intrinsic drivers resulting from childhood and past trauma we need to become aware of and respect. Sure. But in general, we keep on growing.
We grow at different paces and in different directions. That one person you considered your best friend a few years ago may no longer be in the same place. It suddenly became an ambiguous relationship. Some might say even toxic when you force so much to bring yourselves together. Sometimes the mature decision is having respect to understand you no longer belong in each others’ lives. And smile about your past. There are 7.7B people in the world. If you are lucky enough, you’ll get closer to yourself instead of pushing the past to the present.
The next step is taking this to the romantic level. When deep feelings are involved, when someone makes you feel at home when no one else ever did, when you are incapable of hating and you still care how they are doing… that’s harder. How can you tell someone to leave your life when all they have done was not love you as much as you loved them? What if? No what if, you know deep down you can’t be friends. Your love battery is also rechargeable. Let it lose all its charge to fill it with pink energy. You can probably find a better friend.