Create problems, avoid solutions
So many thoughts, so many distractions, so many emotions. I believe most of our problems are self-created. It’s about how you perceive life and certain events, how you can love yourself and accept what you can’t control. And there are so many things you can’t control. You can’t control if your love is reciprocated, you can’t control whether someone is in a bad mood and projects their emotions, the same way you can’t control whether there is traffic on the road. The only thing you can and should control is your reaction to those events. You can project non-reciprocated love into passion projects and people who love you, you can leverage the conversational tone and understand the other person is just projecting and you can leave the house earlier not to be late and think about what you are grateful for when you are stuck in between cars.
I will probably never feel like I’m good enough, but I can also use that to foster growth and bring people along. When I look around my network, I see people being so much better than me in so many different aspects. It’s beautiful to feel growth and gratitude in each interaction. I’m extremely grateful for people with good hearts, capable of loving beyond the extension of their own lives.
Something change though. I no longer think you should be cutting people out of your life. I think that is a question of making them a priority or not and slowly detaching yourself from the relationship and managing expectations. When you tell someone not to be in your life, you create negative feelings towards the other person and your brain will make you pay. Only you know what you feel, so that’s so not advisable. Instead of feeling anger or frustration, you will feel peace by cultivating non-attachment, indifference.