Celebrate sadness
Some days are warm, others are rainy and the rest you forget to notice.
We live in a constant search for something else, for the next big thing, for the next event, for the next storyline. We live in constant frustration and chase happiness, but we forget to check on what’s the underlying message life is trying to convey. We forget what truly matters at the end of the day. We forget to celebrate the small victories. We forget to celebrate waking up in the morning and breathing fresh air. Not everyone has that opportunity. Despite that, we take what we have for granted, thinking tomorrow is given.
Emotions. That’s a different topic. The most grateful person will celebrate acts of service, flowers falling and sunsets. Turning it upside down, the most grounded person will celebrate sadness, anger and despair. Who is there to tell us we should only celebrate positive emotions? If instead of claiming the goal of life to be being happy we would say we should aim to experience the entire range of emotions… we would feel fulfilled with anger. Breaking a plate. Climbing a mountain. Crying until you stop breathing. Laughing until your stomach hurts. Celebrate it all.
People. You will celebrate big victories with strangers, small victories with friends, small dips with good friends, big dips with best friends.
Big dips. The ones you can’t explain. The ones that suddenly take you by surprise and you forget to breathe. The ones you don’t share. The ones that remind you what truly matters and make you realise you are human. I call them trucks. You were hit by a truck. Try to enjoy as much of the hit as the fall. Look to get up, but take it slow.
Attachment styles: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant. People, big dips and attachment styles. When the truck hits, you will conduct your communication in either an anxious or avoidant manner. If like me you are avoidant, you need to explain it to anxious people. You need to explain you don’t want to be contacted and you might just want to spend an entire week by yourself. Some will listen, some will impose, others will interfere and give you what you actually need and didn’t ask for. Pay attention. The day someone gives you a hand and pulls you up… that’s the day you know you’ve made a friend for life. This too shall pass. You’ll be okay and you need to continue showing up. Take care of yourself and of those that give you two hands when you asked for solitude. If you are a people pleaser, you might have a tendency to suffer alone. Don’t be scared of asking for help. Every day is a new opportunity to learn. Learn from the sun and hug the moon. It’s all part of the experience.